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How to talk when kids won't listen : whining, fighting, meltdowns, defiance, and other challenges of childhood / Joanna Faber & Julie King ; illustrated by Emily Wimberly.

Faber, Joanna, (author.). King, Julie (Parent educator), (author.). Wimberly, Emily, (illustrator.).

Summary:

"An all-new guide from the mega-bestselling How To Talk series applies trusted and effective communication strategies to the toughest challenges of raising children. For forty years, readers have turned to Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish's How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, the book The Boston Globe called, "the parenting Bible," for a respectful and practical approach to communication with children. Expanding upon this work, Adele's daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, coauthored the bestselling book, How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen. Now, Faber and King have tailored How To Talk's tried and trusted communication strategies to some of the most challenging childhood moments. From tantrums to technology to talking to kids about tough topics, How To Talk When Kids Won't Listen offers concrete strategies for these and many more difficult situations. Part One introduces readers to the How To Talk "toolbox," with whimsical cartoons demonstrating the basic communication skills that will transform readers' relationships with children in their lives. In Part Two, Joanna and Julie answer specific questions and share relatable stories, offering practical tools for addressing issues such as homework hassles, sibling battles, digital dilemmas, problems with punishment, and more. Readers can turn directly to any topic of interest and find the help they need, with handy "reminder pages." Through the combination of lively stories from real parents and teachers, humorous illustrations, and entertaining exercises, How To Talk When Kids Won't Listen offers real solutions to struggles familiar to every parent, grandparent, teacher, and anyone else who lives or works with children"-- Provided by publisher.

Record details

ISBN: 9781982134143
ISBN: 1982134143
ISBN: 9781982134150
ISBN: 1982134151
Physical Description: xi, 387 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm
Edition: First Scribner trade paperback edition.
Publisher: New York, NY : Scribner, an imprint of Simon & Schuster, Inc., 2021.

Content descriptions

Bibliography, etc. Note:

Includes bibliographical references (pages 375-378) and index.

Formatted Contents Note:

Introduction -- Part one: The basic communication tools. Dealing with feelings -- Why can't they just be happy? -- Cooperative kids -- The impossible dream? Why can't they just do what we tell them to do? -- None of this is working! -- The problem with chapter two -- The problem with punishment -- and what to do instead -- Praise and its pitfalls -- Why do they act so bad when we tell them they're good? -- Part two: Trouble in paradise. Section I: Getting through the day. Enough already! -- When kids are completely unreasonable -- How to listen when kids won't talk -- "How was your day?" Good. "What'd you do?" Nothing. -- HOmework hassles -- Is my kid the only one weeping over the worksheet? -- All wound up and they won't calm down -- Section II: Unnecessary roughness. Help! My kids are fighting! -- Peacekeeping on the home front -- Help! My kid is hitting me! -- The art of self-defense against small combatants -- Animal etiquette -- Kids and creatures -- Section III: Anxiety, fears, and meltdowns. Fears -- Dinosaurs, spiders, and ants...oh my! -- Temper tantrum hotline -- Separation sadness -- Section IV: Bat attitudes -- Complaining, whining, defiance, and other unsociable behaviors. Whining -- The sound that drives you insane -- Sore losers -- The competition conundrum -- Name-calling and "bad" language -- Section V: Conflict resolution. Sharing -- Mine, all mine! -- That is not a toy -- When kids want to "share" your stuff -- The digital dilemma (part 1) -- Managing screen time with younger children -- The digital dilemma (part 2) -- Screens and older children -- Does punishment prepare kids for "real life"? -- Section VI: Bedtime & bathroom battles. Toothbrushing -- The most terrible torture -- Potty power struggles -- Section VII: Touchy topics. Divorce -- Helping children cope with change and loss -- Protecting kids from problematic people -- Sex -- It's only a three-letter word -- Too much hugging -- When affection is nonconsensual -- Section VIII: Troubleshooting. The trouble with you! -- The trouble with but -- The trouble with "say you're sorry".